Poor communication kills off many relationships. When people stop sharing, stop talking about things important to them, it damages intimacy. Communication is actually a form of intimacy. Bad communication is often the culprit to end relationships.
So, if this applies to you, and you want to get your ex back, you need to pay attention to the way you communicate. You need to change the way your partner perceives that you communicate. You need to show a willingness to share yourself and be a good listener.
This isn't difficult. You can start by calling your ex and sharing yourself honestly. Tell them what it feels like to be without them. Tell them what is in your heart. Be vulnerable and honest. It can touch their heart.
Next, focus on being a good listener. Ask them some questions. Get them to open up. You might say "how do you feel about how I treated you?"
There are several tricks to being a good listener. One of the first is ask questions like that and then shut up. Let there be silence. Let your ex take all the time they need to consider their feelings and begin to talk to you about them.
Aim to be a good listener and make your ex feel heard and understood. Say things like "I'm following you, please continue..." Then your ex may really open up, which can be crucial to getting them back with you.
Another important listening skill is to not justify or defend yourself while your ex is telling you how you made them feel. Don't argue, attack, or defend. Listen until they are done, make them feel heard, and at the end, if appropriate, apologize for any way you wronged your mate.
There's more to it, but just these few pointers are a great start. If your ex feels you are becoming a good listener, they may see you in a new light. This can open up their heart and make room for them to reconsider being with you.
So, if this applies to you, and you want to get your ex back, you need to pay attention to the way you communicate. You need to change the way your partner perceives that you communicate. You need to show a willingness to share yourself and be a good listener.
This isn't difficult. You can start by calling your ex and sharing yourself honestly. Tell them what it feels like to be without them. Tell them what is in your heart. Be vulnerable and honest. It can touch their heart.
Next, focus on being a good listener. Ask them some questions. Get them to open up. You might say "how do you feel about how I treated you?"
There are several tricks to being a good listener. One of the first is ask questions like that and then shut up. Let there be silence. Let your ex take all the time they need to consider their feelings and begin to talk to you about them.
Aim to be a good listener and make your ex feel heard and understood. Say things like "I'm following you, please continue..." Then your ex may really open up, which can be crucial to getting them back with you.
Another important listening skill is to not justify or defend yourself while your ex is telling you how you made them feel. Don't argue, attack, or defend. Listen until they are done, make them feel heard, and at the end, if appropriate, apologize for any way you wronged your mate.
There's more to it, but just these few pointers are a great start. If your ex feels you are becoming a good listener, they may see you in a new light. This can open up their heart and make room for them to reconsider being with you.
About the Author:
You can learn more about the Immediate Reconnect Strategies to get your ex back in a course about Get Your Ex Back In Hours. Joanie S Angel teaches relationship and emotional intelligence courses and you can get the free course 7 Vital Relationship Insights You Never Learned In School here at Love Relationship Advice .
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